Becoming happy

Someone today asked, “How do I become happy?”

My entire life I have never really been happy, amused at times, but I have never felt that constant happiness and positive outlook so many around me have. I have spent so long being either depressed, angry, or scared I really don’t know how to be happy.

The way to get there… is by FIRST becoming okay with where you are RIGHT NOW!

Quit judging how you feel, instead… make peace with it. You feel how you feel and that’s as good a starting point as any. Understand that you have developed a habit of predominantly feeling depressed, angry, scared. It’s great that you’re now asking for input about how to develop a NEW habit…

just take it one day at a time (or an hour at a time if necessary ;-)) and reach for a slightly better thought.

You’ve been beating the drum of unhappiness for a long time… it’s now time to change the beat. Start, gently at first, beating the drum of something that feels a bit better than what you’re currently feeling. Just reach for a bit of relief.


  • Rage gives you a feeling of relief from depression, grief, despair, fear, guilt, or powerlessness
  • Revenge gives you a feeling of relief from rage
  • Anger gives you a feeling of relief from revenge
  • Blame gives you a feeling of relief from anger
  • Overwhelment gives you a feeling of relief from blame
  • Irritation gives you a feeling of relief from overwhelment
  • Pessimism gives you a feeling of relief from irritation
  • Hopefulness gives you a feeling of relief from pessimism
  • Optimism gives you a feeling of relief from hopefulness
  • Positive Expectation gives you a feeling of relief from optimism
  • Joy gives you a feeling of relief from positive expectation

It’s a matter of taking baby steps and just reaching for the next better feeling. Then for goodness sake… take a moment and bask in  the bit of relief you feel! Use your thoughts and things around you to open yourself up to the next little feeling of relief.  It takes practice, and if you can commit to that, you can change your world!

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The Secret – A Tip

The Secret (2006 film)

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By now hundreds of thousands of people have seen the movie or read the book called The Secret. It’s opened so many eyes and hearts to the amazing news that there is a Universal Law operating that explains how YOU are the creator of the life you experience. And because you are the creator… you have the power to change your life at any time!

This is, indeed, an awesome revelation. Yet I suspect, probably due to it’s simplicity, so many people seem to be missing the obvious. Or maybe it’s just that so many fail to grasp the understanding that we live in a vibrational Universe… and so, when we hear that the Law of Attraction says, ‘That which is like unto itself is drawn’, or…. Like attracts like…. we have trouble getting out of our ‘thoughts’ and into our vibration.

The problem here is that many people watching or reading The Secret learn that the Creative Process consists of three steps. Yep… just three!

Step 1: ASK

Step 2: ALLOW (The book actually says BELIEVE but I think that’s where it misses)


It will come as no surprise that the feedback shows the challenging step to be step 2.

One of the reasons I think The Secret misses by using the word ‘believe’ is because we humans are good at lying to ourselves. We’re good at it in part because we can ‘think’ we truly ‘believe’ something that we’re NOT vibrationally aligned with and we haven’t cultivated an understanding of the distinction between our ‘thoughts’ and our ‘vibration’… and that’s KEY!

Universal Laws apply at the level of vibration so if we fail at ‘minding our vibration’, knowledge of the Law doesn’t give us much freedom to create the life of our dreams. Instead, we create by default… unaware that our thoughts may… or may not be matching our vibrational output. And ALLOWING in all of the experiences we ask for requires us to be a vibrational match to what we’re ASKING for… always!

So here’s a little tip:

The quicker you realize that… the quicker you become a Deliberate Creator.

The good news is that we can practice becoming the master of our vibration. It just takes a commitment to practice on a regular basis.

You might start by experimenting a bit in order to become aware of the distinctions between thoughts and vibrations. Take a moment and focus on something you’re likely to feel neutral about.

For instance… looking out my window right now, my eyes land on the garage roof. I notice the color of the shingles, the size of the roof and the fact that there are no gutters comes to mind. But frankly, this stirs no feelings within. Take a moment and think of a roof.

How do you feel? Fairly neutral? If so, you’re vibrational output regarding ‘roof’ is not very strong.

Now, shift your thoughts for a few minutes to something likely to stir up some strong feelings. How about imaging the fact that you just won $1 Million in the lottery! Really… dig in and imagine yourself hearing the numbers called and looking down at your ticket to discover all the numbers match…

How do you feel?

Really… use your imagination, hold the thought, then thoroughly explore how you’re FEELING.

What are you feeling emotionally…

What are you feeling physically…

NOW… as the awareness of the feeling is flooding through you how are your thoughts shifting? Are they expanding and moving in different directions?

You have just used a thought to trigger a FEELING… and what you’re FEELING is your vibrational output. The intensity you FEEL it dictates the intensity of your vibrational output in the moment.

Be aware that though the feeling may have come quickly on the heels of the thought… they are NOT one and the same. So practice just making this simple distinction for the next couple of days and then we’ll talk about the power you can reign in by deciding FIRST how you’re going to FEEL and letting that trigger your thoughts, instead of the reverse. Because that is the first real step to living Happily Ever After!

Have Fun,

–Mary K

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Whoops! Dropped the vibrational ball!

OMG… I just got a GREAT ‘hit’…

It’s cool for me because I’ve never caught this before and I’m so excited
I had to stop what I was doing and share this with you right now. (locking it in 😉 )

What happened was that yesterday, I was looking, with appreciation, at the contrast to my desires… and flipping things 180 degrees to get the clarity about what I DO want… as I did this I was inspired with ideas of action I could take…

and I so immediately felt better, feeling excitement and enthusiasm and relief, that I started really basking in this good feeling. But didn’t immediately take action on these inspired thoughts.

So…. as I woke up today, I started thinking about the action I was going to take… and I noticed….

I wasn’t feeling quite as ‘joyful’ about it all as I was last night… and my ‘thoughts’ started going in the direction of TALKING ME OUT OF TAKING ACTION!

And… BINGO!!!

It dawned on me… I get to the point of feeling relief… I even get an inspiration to take action that moves me in the direction of more relief or sustaining the relief…

and I stop to bask in the feeling until the feeling fades!!! THAT’S where I drop the ball!

So I rarely follow through on my prompting and naturally keep creating the same day over and over because my inner ‘thermostat’ is stuck on the merry-go-round of

feel the contrast… seek relief… bask in relief…. whoops… feel the contrast… seek relief… etc.

Gotta go… I’m prompted to take action! LOL

love ya,

–Mary K

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In a world of ABUNDANCE…

does it make sense to experience LACK?

We live in a world of contrasts… and that is a good thing. It’s through contrast that new desires are inspired; and it’s through those situations and circumstances that we find least desirable that we hone clarity around what we prefer. A world full of Highly Evolved Beings appreciates the contrast for the information it provides and uses it to move in the direction of something better. Then there is the Human Being on Planet Earth…

Solving Poverty Button | PSDTUTS

Today is Blog Action Day 2008. The topic bloggers around the world are discussing is POVERTY.  I find myself wondering if we’ll ever arrive at that place in our evolution where poverty is a rarity and the idea of ‘extreme poverty’ is merely an entertaining exercise of the mind. We have a ways to go.

I have an idea… a modest proposal. Let’s WAKE UP to the world of abundance we live in… and the memory that WE ARE ONE! Let’s dare to look into each others eyes… really look… and see ourselves reflected back! Let’s remember that we receive what we give and learn what we teach.

Let’s play a game for the next 24 hours… Imagine, if you will, whatever emotion or thought you express to another will instantly feed directly back to you. Each time you see someone, even those your eyes “happen” to light on, it will be as if you’re looking directly at yourself. Whatever you may ‘teach’ that someone, you will be teaching yourself. Whatever position you put someone else in, you will feel so placed.

Today, if you catch yourself seeing or thinking of someone as separate from you, the lesson you will learn is that you are cut off and alone. However, if you quickly change your thought to something like, “We walk together, you and I” or “Oh, I am that, too” then the lesson that you are fully joined and deeply meaningful to every living thing will be brought to your understanding.

For this 24 hours, imagine that there is no limit to how much you can give yourself today, nor to all the deeply satisfying qualities you can extend directly to yourself.

But keep in mind… Trying to “please” another — trying to be popular or to be liked — is not an act of love. Don’t be fooled into thinking otherwise or you fall back into a poverty mentality.

To solve poverty is to expand our thinking, our awareness, our love. It’s to let love inspire us and to be willing to act on that inspiration. If we’re not willing to do that then I challenge you, like the wise young man, to tell me why…

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Self-Identity ~ YMIU

It fascinates me how grownups (pronounced wisely by a toddler as “grumps”) so consistently miss the insights and wisdom provided by children on a daily basis. Frankly, I find it ironic that the revelation of ‘The Secret‘ that underlying Universal Laws, like the Law of Attraction, allow us to create the lives we experience comes as such a BIG SURPRISE. Continue reading